Till the dark clouds of confusion roll by

There’s a new chapter to a book, a new story to your life. We all have our story which comes with all the twist and turns. With a new chapter, we meet new characters. With every phase that we enter and every new person we meet, it changes us. Our life is just another beautiful book which is waiting in the chaos to be picked by someone.

With the end of school and college, I was done with two major phases of life. I was writing my own story and I had the choice to decide to take up a job or get myself enrolled in college. But which course? Well there I was, with confusion. Forget plans, I didn’t even have a ‘pla’. I chose to go with the flow. Shuffling between a few interviews, I did end up at a job. I entered the world of advertising to be a part of the churning which goes in executing an advertisement.

The first job doesn’t just change you, it’s a slow evolution. Working for nine hours would seem like a nightmare and suddenly expensive fancies might seem more distant. If colleagues aren’t your favourite, you might as well miss those long lost ‘Rishtedaars’ more than the people around you. The going might get tough and the cribbing shall take over you but you’ll learn to survive. You’ll learn to be more mature and value money. And most importantly, you’ll learn to deal with people. Politely.

But, there’s always a ‘but’ in the picture. Most people don’t have everything figured out. You could be among them. I am among them. We tend to go with the flow and we assume that like the rest, we’ll have a perfect plan and everything shall go according to that. We wish that could happen but then we wouldn’t understand life. Suddenly, there wouldn’t be the need of success or failure and life would turn from a roller coaster ride to a never ending road trip without a beautiful view. Wouldn’t that be boring?

We all go through the melancholy once in a while but we need the confusion to get things clear. Those little bumps we come across on our way teach us more than the smooth roads. I’ve been going through that phase, the confusion and the ‘no pla’ phase but we’ll figure it out. The storm shall pass and we’ll learn to dance in the rain. But don’t give up on your dream because that shows you’re weak. And you know you aren’t!

For now, I’ve learnt to wake up with a purpose. I might have had a bad day today but every morning is a new story and every stranger I shall meet could be a new character. Our aspirations are our biggest inspiration. The drama is a part of the story. And if something comes to an end, it might as well be a new beginning.

I read this quote and we all need to read this. That’s our purpose and maybe that shall help you see the sun shining through the dark clouds.

We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we've established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile.

Earl Nightingale

21 things you'll hear in your early 20s

20 years, Four months but I've surely heard the early twenty speeches more often. With majority of you in your early twenties, I'm sure you've heard it all from your parents, relatives or far extended family.

1. 'Aage kya karoge?' - Not one person I came across who hasn't heard it from his/her parents or relatives. We're not even through graduation and they want to know our future plans. Relatives want to know every explicit detail of our life. The truth is their constant interrogation scares us more than the confusion we’re battling with ourselves. Oh how we wish they could understand!

2. Are you planning to study further or start working? – This is the immediate question that follows after our plan. Some students have future aspirations and even see themselves as pursuing PhDs while some are already engaged/married in the last year of college but majority is confused whether to find a job or get in a decent college for masters.

3. When do you plan to get married? – Okay so how old are we like, 20-21-22 maybe 24? We still find ourselves too young to get married at this age. We are not ready to deal with ourselves, so how do people expect us to handle someone else in our life or might as well deal with a new life in a new family? Indian parents, so many expectations I tell you!

4. Are you having an affair? – Why do relatives still go jaw dropping when they hear about an AFFAAAAAAIR? Before it turns out to be a successful love marriage, aren’t we (I’m talking on behalf of all those lovers so better thank me!) supposed to experiment/ date and learn? Like there were no love marriages when they were in their 20s!

5. You should come more often to the weddings and meet people! – Oh this one comes more often. Age 20 seems a bar when you’re suppose to act all civil and presentable and go to long lost relative’s weddings and social gatherings, meet people you didn’t even know existed and smile- with all 32 teeth to show ALL THE TIME. The government considers it legal at 21 to consume alcohol while at the same time, parents ask to act sober. Ah, what an Irony!

6. For women- You should learn how to cook (and additional ‘ghar ka saara kaam’). – For all the women out there, it’s time we learn to make those round Chapatis and to cook the basic Daal, Rice and Paneer so that we can decently cook without burning the food; Food that can be consumed, by people other than you. Just a heads up, the list doesn’t end at cooking.

7. If you do x thing and your parents go all, what will your in-laws says when you do this? – I haven’t heard this too often but my siblings/ friends have. Time has come when moms start training their daughters to stay strong at the battlefield (In-laws’ house)! You need to cook, speak softly, dress decently, act civilly and learn the household chores ‘cause they never want them to say, “Yehi Sikhaya hai tumhari Maa ne?” (Melodramatic but that could happen you know?)

8. When they ask you to lose/gain weight or dress properly when you visit people because you might just have your future mother in-law around. – They want you to be NICE to possibly EVERYBODY. You cannot go all tomboyish, wearing shorts and no makeup. You need to do your hair, appropriately. Make as much use of bags, makeup, accessories and all the girlish stuff. (I know that’s a nightmare for not so girlish women. Been there, done that!) And food, is no longer a necessity; it’s an indulgence. You need to keep a watch on your weight and the food you’re consuming. You can’t even eat like some imprisoned animal that just came out of a cage.   

10. Finance becomes an important issue. – Since most of us don’t start earning too soon, learning how to handle your finances becomes an important lesson. We cannot go spending money lavishly and we need to act mature. Savings could help you through those days when you’re broke or when you’ve to survive on 100 bucks for a week.

11. Learning to do your own dishes or laundry is a must! – Oh yeah. Days are gone when domestic help would rescue you from the dirty dishes and laundry but now, you’re EXPECTED to wash it by yourself. Maybe not every day but surely when the mommy dearest needs help and the domestic help goes on a long vacation. No matter how busy you are, you’ve to help mom. You don’t know want to be in a situation when she takes the house upside down because of the missing maid.

12. And then there are people like me who still don’t know how to drive a car! – Girls learn to drive by 18 (I agree majority of them aren’t the best drivers *embarrassed*) and guys, even before they’re 16; But I’m sure there are some of us hiding our faces in the crowd cause we still can’t drive officially (I don’t even have a two-wheeler’s license.) So once in a while, our parents do remind us to start driving a Car.

13. ‘You’re no longer a teenager’ talks: Of course we aren’t a teenager anymore. There’s no drama and mixed feelings but we’re trying to adapt to the change. Wouldn’t it be nice on your part to give us sometime so we can deal with the grown up stuff?

14. Be a role model for your younger sibling: I hear this almost every day and I’m expected to be the nicest daughter so that my baby sister is INSPIRED and doesn’t end up doing every ridiculous thing I did. She’ll do her own mistakes and learn but we elder ones got to do what we got to do!

15. Or learn something from your elder sibling: - In case you have a perfect elder sibling, oh hell has broken down to you. Every time you do something stupid, you’ll be asked to learn something from the elder ones. Hah. Like they never did anything crazy in their lives!

16. ‘College khatam, Kal se Office aa!’ – Majority of sons are expected to join their dads in the continued legacy of family business and take charge at their office. In fact, all fathers start training their sons from the first year so they can hand over all tasks to their son. (Especially the Marwari, Punjabi and Sindhi boys; wish you luck with that!)

17. What are we doing with our lives? – More than somebody asking us, I think we all question ourselves the same thing more often when we see other people doing extremely well in their lives. The confusion, anger and madness lead nowhere but to introspect, listen to sad songs and talking about the same stuff with our best friends because maybe they are the only ones who understand. But you could also seek advice from seniors, professors and parents. They’ve been there, they sure can help!

18. Pata nahi iska aage kya hoga *sigh*:  Our parents are more confused and scared about our lives. They don’t know what are we going to do ahead but they sure wish to see us do something BIG and even if we don’t end up doing THE BIG THING, they’ll still be proud of us!

19. I’m going to throw your stupid phone. Din bhar Bas Facebook, Whatsapp laga rakha hai! – This dialogue has to come from our parents, every few hours in a day! (Though nowadays, they are the ones who tend to be more addicted to the social networking apps and games on these clingy smart phones!)

20. Stop partying with your friends and become SERIOUS towards your life:

And I’m quoting it; it goes SERIOUS, not sincere. Since parents did not pay much heed to our college results, we’re expected to work hard to secure admission in the best college in the country or the best workplace. Well, undeniably; they’re always right*.

21. Din kaise khatam hote jayenge pata bhi nai chalega. Yehi toh time hai career bananeka! – Their generation might not have faced so much competition and their parents didn’t give so much importance to studies, maybe that’s why they as parents want us to supersede them and stand on our feet. The time is now and that’s why we Indian teenagers (okay, young adults. Takes time to get used to it) get to hear all these statements once in a while, for our good. Overrated you may say but haven’t we all been there? 

Obsessed with Closure.

If you ever seem to be a sitcom fan and The Big Bang Theory is your favorite because of the lead, Sheldon Cooper (Jim Parsons); I'm sure you'll be able to relate to this article. Dear readers, today I'm going to talk about The Closure Alternative (Big Bang Season 6- Episode 21) and my inputs on this morbid obsession with closure.

The most amazing writers end their books abruptly; like you're reading and there seems to be no conclusion for what would have happened to the characters? Did they really meet, survive or die? Sometimes we even miss out the chance to know what the author might have thought about the end of the story. With reading, we get more attached to the characters. Somehow, we seem to get more worried when the fictional character is facing a problem and with them, we weave our own version of the story.

People say it's hard to make a movie which is as close as it has been described in the book. Well, I couldn't disagree more because every reader makes his/her own character sketch and it isn't an easy task to put all those sketches in one single character in the movie. However, it's just not books but even movies end abruptly. What is the motive behind this? Why do they make us scratch our heads or leave us in a profound state of curiosity?

Linking it back to my favorite character, Sheldon Cooper (So he's this scientist guy who has his own set of annoying idiosyncrasies. He lives with his roommate Leonard, who has to bear all his tantrums. Sheldon has an obsessive compulsive disorder and the episode I mentioned, he faces a problem where he cannot accept situations which have no closure; like not being able to blow all the candles on a birthday cake, not completing a word in a sentence or not finishing the tic tac toe, not letting the dominos trip, etc.) he goes through the same problem some of us do. 

We get really obsessive about characters and it becomes difficult to watch a movie or read a book with no closure. Recently, I read one of the most beautiful books, The fault in our stars by John Green whose character Hazel Grace goes through the same obsession; so much that she writes fan mails and even goes all the way to Amsterdam just to meet the author and get all her answers.

It's not like people obsessed with closure are facing a psychological threat but somehow, reading takes us to another world. It's a magical palace with a thousand imaginary worlds, of our own. Movies, adapted from books play the same trick. For some, reading might just be a hobby but some really wish to crawl in those books and be a part of it. Like how would it feel to be there with Harry Potter fighting his fight against Lord Voldemort, to get lost in the labyrinth with Alice in Wonderland or to be the Charlie and take a tour in Willy Wonka's chocolate factory!

We've had several movies which end unanticipated and the people who seem to appreciate this style had something else to say. So I asked a friend of mine, Niraj Mulani, to tell me what he felt about closure and he said, 'I think I like it when the author or director leaves the story on a lose end and let's the audience figure out what might have happened because then it let's me be a part of the story and the audience can have their own version as the suspense.' So the director or author plays safe with not disappointing the audience and as well have their own happy ending. 

The truth is we don't really like unfinished things and this closure, we're forgetting how closely it affects us. For years, we've tried to give ourselves the comfort to deal with all the discomforts we find. Dealing with deaths isn't easy, so we came up with funerals as a closure to the dead and the sentiments attached with them. When incongruency took over us, we came up with the comfort of defense mechanisms which could as well be a closure for someone ignoring reality. We need closures in life, to deal with situations, people, relationships and deaths; to realize that something is over and we need to let go maybe because our mind is still stuck in the things we didn't conclude. We need to move past it and realize that no matter how hard it hurt, it's time to take a step ahead then moving backwards. Closure is a healing we all need; those last words said and the last goodbyes- we can't be devoid of the last chance. The closure may or may not meet your expectations but we all seek it to let the old go and say hello to new things.

That reminds me of how Yann Mattel beautifully put it in Life of Pi, 'It's important in life to conclude things properly. Only then can you let go.'

Senior year summations!

The end is almost there. From the first step in this haunted house (oh it felt like one, initially) to the last few moments in this amazing place, we’ve been everywhere. We’ve tried to capture every moment and the more pictures we take, the lesser they seem. Like every collegian, we’re trying to sum up everything we can to take away whatever we can with us. Few days and we’ll be departing to lead our own lives somewhere, some place far. Oh wait, too sentimental did I get?

College life becomes the most important part of our journey or that’s what I’ve observed. There’s school and then college. And then Post Graduation, Masters, PhD or directly jumping on to marriage! But these three years, I’ve learnt so much more than those 14 years of schooling. And my very weird observation has compelled me to jot it down. So here I go, putting down the observations of a Bkmiba Collegian!

1. Attendance was a strong weapon.
On the day of orientation itself, we were given a stern warning to attend lectures. Not just that, 80% attendance compulsion to give exams. And then, when some of us (oh I was among them) couldn’t make it, parents were informed and the repercussions and melodrama forced us to attend lectures. But whatever we learnt was indeed outside lectures! I mean interacting with professors and seniors, events and stuff.

2. Breaking the rules also made us follow them.
So this might sound a little ironic to you but this is what happened. As freshmen, we sure had fun in breaking the rules and I was one rule-breaking kid. I bunked college and in the first month my attendance was a low 45%. Till the mid of first year, I did all the wrongs and suddenly realized, it’s tougher to follow the rules than to break them. And then, some spark of light pulled me to join EMC (It’s a pretty cool thing in my college to be an EMC member. You get to be a volunteer in events, decorate the venue, work hard and have all the fun. The biggest perk we’ve is that we enjoy all the events, from scratch till the end!) Therefore, the fact that I broke them helped me understand its importance. (Of course, there’s an implied conditions apply on this one.)

3. We stayed back in college for more number of hours than home or PG.
Forget bunking and finishing college before 3pm, we stayed here for more hours than at home. Coming here early morning and staying up till late before submissions, events and exams. We’ve done it all. Food was the only source to keep us up and there you could see us next morning, all energized zombie-looking people, and still attending lectures.

4. We were somehow more attached to our juniors and seniors.
Our super seniors and seniors stayed with us for a year or two and the same applied with the junior batches. We spent the entire three years with our own batch but this was an observation. Somehow, we had more affinity towards seniors or juniors. When it was about seeking guidance, we would resort to our seniors and while guiding someone, our juniors would seek us. And even with little things, our seniors taught us a lot more. We sure owe them for we are their reflections. And exchanging roles with the juniors also taught us many things.

5. Professors are the best guides.
I might seem a teacher’s pet to you but here, you gotta love the professors! You could go to them if you wish to share something; you could attend their lectures and might as well be whiling over a cup of tea/coffee with them after lectures. A moment they might scream at you to teach you something and the next, they’ll be all cool like nothing happened. Even if you have been someone who is scared to approach professors, this place is going to help you let go all those fears. Lectures and studies were still a compulsion but even when we saw the alumni members meet our professors with so much love in their eyes, *aww* even I went speechless.

6. College hook-ups might result in marriage.
Lol. Now that might be a shock for some of you. But that’s one uncanny observation I had right here. And that’s a trend I was told follows here. Most of the people coupled here, ended up getting married. Aww and isn’t that cute? To support this, some of our professors got married to their classmates and they even told us giggling away that this trend has been following. Let’s see which couples we get to see getting married in the coming years.

7. Winning isn’t everything.
The best thing, the most important lesson I learnt in the past three years is that winning isn’t everything. In the quest of life, you come across failures more often than success. You might give your best shot but still lose. And sometimes, in the want of success, you might end up losing everything else. Like the movie Student of the year, we’ve our own version called Capstone right here. For that one trophy, I saw people lose bigger things; I saw them break years of friendship and ruining relationships. I’ve heard it from the greatest people and they said it right, “What’s success if you have no one to share it with?” Quoting KB, “It is okay even if you lose, what’s important is that you stay together!” So let’s hope we end this journey together, with the ones we started with.

8. You’ll discover something new about you, you never knew before.
Sportspersons, musicians, artists, nerds, dancers, models! We’ve all had them in our college. But some of us discovered those talents, right here in this building. And luckily, I was one of them. My love for writing was discovered right here and I’ve been writing ever since. We sure turn out to be very different people than what we were, just three years back.

9. You make the best of friends, only in School and College.
I cannot deny that statement. I mean it’s not that you never make friends after college but you get to pick the best ones right here. Till the third year, I always felt it was just school friends who stayed. But then, could I be more wrong? College friends, become your second family. You eat together, fight with them and cry to them. And even when everything goes wrong, you know in the end you’ll go back to them. I know I befriended the most amazing people here and the ones I didn’t be friends with, were the lessons I learnt.

I hope I helped you recollect a few moments and if you are a senior reading this right now, remember there are just four months to go. So if you were lost in the crowd, make sure you make the most of your college life in the coming days. There are some things that are lost with wind and like sand slipping from our hands, we can’t catch it however hard we try. These are your days, make sure you make the most of these moments before they become a lost memory. Feel free to share your favourite memory! :)

God bless the Music!

We’ve been humming it, we’ve been dancing to it every day and everywhere though it makes no logical sense and even when people seem to love it; some of us, are still going to take a stance and crib about it. I’m talking about nothing else but the Bollywood Music today. Indians have had immense love towards Item numbers, we know they top the charts but item numbers weren’t suppose to be about how a woman is selling her body through her ‘Jawani’ and ‘Badnami’; they aren’t suppose to portray a woman as ‘Bai’ or belonging only to ‘Paise wale’.

So you think I missed out the worst ones? Like what’s the latest one, “Chingum chabake’? Ishqiyaun Dishkiyau? Or wait, Tu tu tu tu tu? How can they even come up with these songs? This was a stupid fad and everybody seems to follow it for long. It all started with Why this Kolaveri Di and now they have set another milestone with songs from Krrish 3 and Gori Tere Pyaar Mein.

I have taken a stand to go ahead and criticize this kind of music. I wouldn’t really put all the songs under the same head but yes, majority of the songs coming are only focusing on catchy trashy lyrics. I wish I could scream to the crowd and be like ‘Where is Prasoon Joshi and Amit Trivedi? Can we not listen to Javed Akhtarji and Gulzarji?’ Those were the songs we could sing, the lyrics we could fall in love with and the words we could actually remember instead of just yapping something everybody else is. Honey Singh’s songs- not good music. Hailing ‘Roka toh kiss my…’ is not something you can boast. Listening to old songs is indeed music to your ears compared to someone rapping or screaming with screeching music which can give you a thumping headache.

When I enter a crowd and people are zealously singing these songs, a part of me loses a little hope every moment. The little hope that someday the good old era of music shall revive and we’ll get to hear songs that literally gave me Goosebumps or triggered my emotions to making me cry! And indeed, when our elders complained about the music nowadays; I could not disagree with them. The music indeed is deflating like the value of Rupee against Dollar and we need to be careful about the steep fall we’re on. Music was suppose to soothe our minds, to make us more peaceful but the music today seems to sell violence and slangs, which has a deep influence on the younger generations!

We’ve been blessed to have mesmerising musicians in our country. Even if we weren’t born during that era, we’re lucky enough to listen to them even today, with the same sentiment we did when our seniors would listen to them. To name few legends like Lata Mangeshkar, Mohammad Rafi, Kishore Kumar, Manna De, Jagjit Singh and many more I’m missing out, we loved them with our heart and soul. The lyrics were beautiful, the music soothing and we still remember those songs. They stayed in our hearts and shall forever attain the same place. And even when we cant have them back, we still have their micro versions. We’ve A.R. Rahman, we have Javed Akhtar, Amit Trivedi, Mohit Chauhan, Shreya Ghoshal and many more artists who are somewhere lost between the artists who choose to go with the trend instead of a breakthrough.

Our land has been renowned for one of the best classical artists in the Music Industry, then why such turbulence to the Western music? Every once in a while, a beautiful Sufi song or a song with a Sufi name does come up; but can it pay the damage done by the other lot of songs? The legends are right there, the listeners are waiting in dire need of good music. Even when people seem to be hypnotized by some artists today, music lovers are tired of the mainstream, beyond tolerance, nonsensical music. So if we can please come together and raise one voice to all those musicians and lyricists, let it be for something we can hear in long run without hating the lyrics. Music is a boon; don’t make it a bane for us. If you can’t bring us back our legends, at least give us the choice to listen to something that cures, not creates pain!

Wishing for Immortality

Immortality is a virtue, only attained by fictional characters. We keep blaming Eve for having the Forbidden fruit, in a hope that we wouldn't have lost our dear ones; we wouldn't have to wake up to obituary columns or terrible accidental deaths. Those nightmares wouldn't come true and the people we lost would still be right beside you. How we wish all this could be more than just words, how I wish immortality could actually be a virtue!

We've dealt with deaths and after-death phase, letting go the attachment and acquainting ourselves to their absence. We smiled in their smiles, cried in their tears, we saw them in our eyes and loved them like they were going to stay around forever and yet one day; they chose to leave. We all knew they might abode their stairway to heaven someday but the day came as a shock.

We know that man is a social animal. We fairly concentrate on the word ‘social’ but we forget that man is an animal and he behaves in a similar manner. We are filled with gushing emotions and we express them deeply. Deaths lead us to pain, shock, agony and the absence of our loved ones drives us crazy. Some face reality and try accepting it, the pain makes them cry but some; they try to be stoical every time, they refuse to show the world they are weak and crying isn't their trait.

But you’re a human animal. You can’t hide your emotions for too long and eventually, you might have a breakdown. You shall express your agony by crying or anger, you shall love people and nevertheless get attached even if you didn't wish to and you will miss them when they’re gone. Attachment to humans or animals is undeniable but what comes aftermath is tough. Feelings rushing down our minds to hearts venting out through our eyes, oh how complex we humans are!

So the people we are so attached to, We can’t have them around forever and years down when they’re breathing their last; every memory with them comes rushing down our mind. From the moment when we met them to the good and bad, to happy and sad and to the fact that whenever you needed them, they were there, right there beside you! The person could be a family member or your adorable pet but the attachment doesn't die. 

Today, they are there in the stars, happily watching us from heavens above while we’re living, without them. We do miss them once in a while and some of us still haven’t got used to their absence. The social quotient makes us love having people around us and their absence makes us cranky, gloomy. And when the absence is permanent, you can’t imagine the shock one can go through. This is when I wish immortality could be a superpower only good souls could have and the ones I love could stay around even today. Sometimes, I feel their presence right beside me. I still have dreams about them, they are on their way home- they do miss me and they are bored of heaven, they are coming back to me. *Alarm rings* For we all know, that’s just a dream.

But then, there’s a reason we are combating mortality. Imagine the population exploding if everyone who took birth would have been alive till now; we could even be in need of another galaxy to suffice ourselves. And capital punishment? We got no right to take away life when we can’t restore it but how would we punish the devils of this society? Also, when people go through a lot of suffering, physically or mentally during any phase of their life, they seek death, or as Hindus call it ‘Moksha’(Salvation).

If Immortality could be bestowed upon us, would we relish each day like our last? Would we appreciate the sole soul of a person or take everyone for granted? Wishing for Immortality, we all do that; but appreciating the short-lived mortals; we ought to learn that!

Why not Single?

“Are you still Single? WHY?” Oh Dear Lord, not again. I’ve come across this question a million times and my answer has been evasive and it keeps changing as per the person I’m answering. People might seem so concerned about your relationship status but are they really concerned or is it the social mockery, so they can happily brag about their relationship? Is it the fact that the society has acceptance only towards couples and if you’re single, they think that something is certainly WRONG with you? Forget the couples but what do we singles have to say about this?

I’ve seen people fall in love and act all gooey, awing over their mushy pictures and the needless need of being together everywhere they go; so much that if you come across one out of the two, the first question is where is your partner; and before you say anything, they’ll skip to the next question, desperately to know if you broke up? I mean really, haven’t you heard something called space? It’s not like we are glued together even before we’re married! I also find it funny how people expect you to get married after you start dating for a few months. No really, they would happily be your astrologer and start coupling you to the extent that they’ll ask you if you have named your kids yet.

I’ve another complain with these couples. Why do you want Us, the singles, to find someone for ourselves? Do you think we aren’t capable enough to find a suitable partner by ourselves or alike you, we should settle down with someone before and I’m quoting this, “the best goods run out of stock?” If you are very well happier with your partner, why is there a sudden urge for the rest to find someone too? I could very well pick a friend to accompany you for a double date! And wait, do you think we carry an emotional baggage or something to think, that we can’t find someone, forget indulging in a relationship?

We’ve all met such cynical souls who fail to see the rest happier, coupled or single and the fact that they want to know everything going on with us and have no control in their own lives. Even those old women who constantly want to know if someone’s son or daughter got married at the right age? Since when do you care about the neighbourhood when you couldn’t take care of your own house? The social need of being coupled and the fact that it’s the foremost responsibility to get married at the right age, drives the social pressure on people and resultantly some even end up in the dark clouds of depression and low self worth!

So even when all the youngsters follow the trend of finding someone, there are some who are happier, all by ourselves, to the extent of not complaining about our complicated relationship or letting the world know that we live in a bubble of happiness. We aren’t emotionally dependent on someone because we are the reason for our own little happiness. We might be named as emotionally damaged, unavailable, lacking in colour, physique, height or any other physical attributes; but the thing is, we still haven’t found the need to find someone.

If the world asks you again, whether why single, pounce back on them, asking WHY NOT SINGLE? Not because you don’t have a partner now or you find love an illusion or your past has hurt you so much that you choose to be adamant about being single throughout your life; that’s stupid. Eventually, it all comes down to you, your happiness and when you’re ready to put aside your life, career, friends and family for a new start. To the fact, that you’re happier with your life and someday wouldn’t mind sharing it with someone or do you really wish to tie your partner with a leash, acting a control freak and still boast about what you name this as a ‘relationship’.