We befriend, we talk,
we share and then get close; so much that we start expecting from each other in
every possible way and when those expectations aren’t fulfilled, there comes a
crack in the relation. How often do we fight with someone, argue, choose to
stand affirm because of our ego and then just because ME becomes stronger than
We at that moment; we end up giving it all. For that one little thing that
turned out to be offensive, you chose to let go the person than to bend down.
There’s just one cure to this- ‘Forgive and Forget’.
An argument however
ugly is temporary. Give it sometime and things eventually resolve. What makes
it ugly is the silence, ranging from ignoring to completely not talking and
then one day; you see each other as strangers. After days and months, you go
through those old pictures and every good memory makes you weep. Nostalgia is a
good feeling only when accompanied by happy memories.
So the time passes
by, we sit back and await the time that the person would come up to you,
apologize and things would be back as they were before. But maybe, likewise the
person is waiting for you to make a move. Days and months pass and still
there’s no hint of a conversation between the two. Well, it doesn’t take long
when somebody you know becomes somebody you used to know! Everything changes between
the two, from good bonding to mere formality; best friend to acquaintance and
even facing each other becomes awkward.
But wait, Rewind! Was
the relationship worth every bit of shit you had to undergo to keep it going?
If you really think so, it is never too late to mend the broken bond. Accepting
your mistakes and even facing the humiliation might seem tough but not for
things that are worth keeping lifetime. On the other side, if the person comes
back to you; they sure know your importance. It seems hard to forget the past,
to move ahead wearing a smile, to adapt to the change and to give it to a new
start.
We have the tendency
to keep analyzing things and to keep thinking about the past, to regret and to
re-visit the memory lane just to know what went wrong then and why it dint work
out. But why are we wasting time still thinking about the time that’s never
coming back and instead sweep off the mess and start it afresh. Just a word of
apology and you never know how many hearts you’ll touch. It might seem hard to
bow down and be the first one to be sorry for what happened, but it only means
that you value your relation more than your individuality.
Through all the
relations I had in my life, I have learnt one thing for sure; the people who
want to stay in your life will always find a way. Maybe that’s the secret to
those successful long distance relationships, the friends that in spite of
every fight manage to stay by each other since kindergarten to the time when
you drop your kids at kindergarten. Time doesn’t change anything unless trust
and love stays intact and its beautiful how people manage to be together even
at this pace of life. It’s not how often you meet, talk or connect; but how
much the two of you are willing to make it work. And it doesn’t always have to
make sense, because how quickly the people we meet become so close, how much we
love them and the bonds we end up making is beyond logic and what words can
express.
